Preparing for Difficult Conversations: A Step-by-Step Guide

I need to have a difficult conversation with [relationship person] about [topic]. Help me prepare for this conversation in a way that maximizes understanding and minimizes defensiveness. Please guide me to: 1) Clarify my objectives for the conversation, 2) Understand my own emotions and needs regarding this issue, 3) Consider their possible perspective and feelings, 4) Structure the conversation effectively, and 5) Prepare specific language to initiate the conversation, express my concerns constructively, respond to potential reactions, and move toward resolution. Here's the situation: [describe relationship context, the issue, previous attempts to address it if any, and your concerns about having this conversation].